Alain de Botton: A kinder, gentler philosophy of success #TED : http://on.ted.com/h0E7x
I absolutely adore Alain De Botton, ever since reading his “Essays in Love”, I have found his writings very charming and funny. So it was lovely to see him in the list of TED talks.
He talked of the idea of success and failure in the video, firstly on how the idea of success associated strongly the desire to be loved and value. To me success in some ways, also equals to finding one’s sense of validation of existence in this world. I especially loved his saying about “next time you see someone driving Ferreri, see him as someone who was incredibly vulnerable and in need of love.”, it was a brilliant line as we often looked at those people thinking “what a show off”.
Then he went onto the history of public perception to failure, how in ancient times failure was more to do with one’s misfortune, more to do with one’s inability of controlling the external forces that cause problens. However in current days, one’s misfortune become one’ own fault as we took up greater responsibility for everthing we askef for. As a result, it is hardly a surprise if anyone ended in mental breakdown like myself.