– Why should 1 apologize for chosen sex work? –

Courtney Lapresi “apologized” for life choices.

Often we made choices in life, sometimes we regretted we did, sometimes we did not regret a thing.

I was taught as a child/all my life, that no one should be damned or criticized over a life choice they make – no matter the morality, as long as it placed no harm to others (or criminal).

So I often found myself very angry (even I wasn’t the one directly receiving these offences), when hearing people’s choices being criticized for morally offending others. On what ground, on what right, do those people have to criticized and condemn others?

Yet to my surprise, this was hardly an unusual matter in the world of sex work – for example the news of a lady call Courtney Lapresi. She was known as a MasterChef winner in USA, and she had a background of working as a stripper. To me it was hardly anything special, merely a woman who tried to venture her way into a different profession. There were many other women who choose sex work to help ease off the stress of living in financial context, for example Belle Knox – a student who managed to gain her earnings for tuition fees through pornography, or Vanessa Knowles, a university student who managed the expensive expenses of her law degree through stripping and web cam work. Sex work harbored the advantages such as flexibility and an ability to generate instant cash, while the drawbacks were mostly to do with the violence and potential exploitation. 

Whilst sexuality could be use as a weapon for women to get to certain accessibility, some people felt that sex workers gave them validity to condemn and criticize as they often got marginalized by the society itself (with methods such as alienation in policies). Others felt sexuality and sex work would put women (well radical feminists) into the most undesirable disposition – objectification, therefore the R-Fs felt they have every rights to “put things back to where it should be”. As a result, women had to feel ashamed about being/had been a sex workers in most cases, even I presume many of them were trying to simply make an improvement of their living situations like paying rent. 

Also stigmatization of sex work often put women into a hell’s position – for example in Swedish Model, sex workers often have to “sneak around” for their business. From time to time they got very little seconds to make sure if the clients from the car were trustworthy enough for them to get in, or their ability to negotiate their safety and health often got weaken because of the lack of accessibility on health care, plus the sex workers have to put up with the shaming from people around them. 

There is this one quote I liked from the post:

“Sex workers are people, too; they are dreamers, students and diligent workers. Working at a gentlemen’s club does not lessen one’s value and it should not detract from one’s accomplishments.”

This pointed out our absolute arrogance from all around us – religion, government and attempts to straighten out the gender roles (some are necessary like Emma Watson’s He For She project, while some other parts were really unnecessary). We ought to learn in this case that no one should be shamed for a life choice that one make which affected in most case no one, we should instead enabled them the sense of safety in the same level citizens received. For example, allowance of women to work in a flat with another colleague in case of safety, or various methods that enabled sex worker’s safety. For example, Switzerland’s drive-in sex boxes (even the safety of those are questionable) and Merseyside Model (for details please refer to Ruth Jacobs (http://ruthjacobs.co.uk/tag/merseyside-model/). 

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